Adventures in moving cross country- Volume 10.1 : What about the children?!
There is a lot of excitement in our family to move. We are looking forward to all the new opportunities and adventures that await us. We are also very sad to be leaving a community that we've cultivated for so long. There's a lot of stuff still up in the air, which can be really anxiety inducing. Then there's the stuff that's just plain hard and painful, like slogging through the mortgage process, purging all of our stuff and worrying about how this will effect our kids.
When it comes to Bucky, our 4 year old, he kind of gets it and is pure excitement. We get glimpses into his brain as he talks about things "when we move to Michigan!" and it seems like it's going to be a magical wonderland of fun, new toys and probably lots of candy. He loves snow and no doubt will have a blast catching fireflies and spending time with his Bubbe. The new house will probably be a real life castle to him and it will be fun to hear him run around it non-stop. I'm sure he'll miss the friends he has here, and his cousin, but he's young enough that making friends isn't difficult and he'll likely forget most of them unless we bring them up.
Even though he is a teen, Jerome is also very sensitive and caring about others' feelings and therefore has been very receptive to all the reasons that went in to the decision to move. He's supportive overall and has resigned himself to it. Some days, he does indulge us by actually being optimistic about the future. He talks about what he wants to decorate his new room like and how he wants to form a band in his new city. Throughout most of his school years, he's had many friends, but not many close ones, and he's hoping that with a fresh start, there may be some better relationships in his future.